Balance October 2017 - 17

S E X A N A LY S I S

FIND
YOUR
BALANCE

On average, those now aged over
55 lost their virginity aged 19. These
days, it's 16 for boys and 17 for girls

WAYS TO IMPROVE
YOUR LIBIDO
CUT OUT SUBSTANCES
It may feel like a good way of
loosening up, but you're not doing
your communication or sexual energy
levels any favours if you're dosing
yourself in wine or other substances
before you hit the bedroom.
Swap the alcohol for a lust-boosting
diet including broccoli, watermelon,
lettuce, eggs, ginger, cloves and, of
course, chocolate. Oysters are an
aphrodisiac, but pine nuts (as found
in pesto) are a more accessible
source, which may explain why the
Italians are so good at amore.

Are you
happy with
your sex life?

STOP WORRYING ABOUT
WHAT'S NORMAL
People in relationships often don't
have the same level of desire, says
Enjoy Sex authors Meg-John Barker
and Justin Hancock. They don't find
the same things arousing, either.
'People tend to believe that the
"ideal" sexual relationship involves
people wanting the exact same kind
of sex, and around the same amount.
'They are often concerned about
how often other couples have sex,
for example, assuming they should
match up to that.'
The trick is to find what works for
you. If that's every day, great. Once a
month? Also fine. It's the quality and
connection that matters, not the
number of positions or orgasms.

TERRI FINNIGAN, 27
Production manager

RICHIE MANN, 32
Business owner

LOTTIE MILLS, 26
Personal assistant

I get enough sex. I am in a
relationship and I think we
are quite different sexually
anyway so it depends on
the scenario as to whose
sex drive is higher at the
time. I think stress from
work can have a massive
impact on my libido. I
think when it is spur of the
moment that heightens
libido, you never want it to
be a planned out scenario.

It's a joint thing when it
comes to sex, although I
can be a little forceful.
Alcohol decreases my sex
drive and also when I'm
tired. Rest increases it,
you feel refreshed after
a period of relaxation.
I get enough sex but I
would always like to have
more. Do I dream about
it? I don't know anybody
who doesn't.

Yes I definitely get enough
sex! I started seeing
someone about two
weeks ago and it's great.
I think my libido is pretty
high in general. Drinking
increases my sex drive
and just being in a new
relationship too. I think
about sex about four
times a day and I reckon
I dream about it around
once a week or so.

October 2017 BA LA N CE

STRESS IS NOT SEXY
The number one obliterator of a
healthy libido is stress. As Louise
Manzanti, co-author of Real Sex,
explains: 'When your system is
flooded with adrenaline and cortisol,
your mind is racing to deal with the
perceived threat and your desire for
sex decreases accordingly.
Manzanti recommends this erotic
exercise: 'Sit comfortably and breathe
into your body. Your only task is to
look for pleasure in your body. If your
mind starts racing, just come back to
playful inquiry. Imagine you could turn
up the volume of this pleasure and let
it spread. How do you want to move in
this moment? If you're with a partner,
let this erotic energy guide you.'

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