At Home With Lorraine Kelly 2017 - 108
'I've raised nearly £40K
for Great Ormond Street
in memory of my son'
HEATHER CROWSON, 34, IS MARRIED TO
RICHARD, 42. THEY LIVE IN IRCHESTER,
NORTHAMPTONSHIRE, WITH THEIR SONS OLIVER,
NINE, AND BENJAMIN, FIVE. THEIR MIDDLE SON
CAYDEN WOULD HAVE BEEN SEVEN THIS YEAR
'Cayden passed away in 2011, at just
10 weeks old. He was born with a rare
condition ca ed hy o astic e heart
syndro e. or a year a er he died
I was mad at the world. All I
could think was: "Why my
child?" I couldn't talk to anyone
or leave the house. I sat on the
sofa, comfort eating and crying.
'We decided to try for another
baby but we didn't think it
would happen so quickly.
Throughout the pregnancy, I
was terri ed so ething wou d
go wrong. Great Ormond Street
Hospital (GOSH) in London
monitored me and were brilliant. So
when Oliver wanted to take part in
the RBC Race For The Kids 5K family
fun run to raise money for GOSH
Children's Charity, we went along.'
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'It was hard - I walked most of it. But
the turning point was when I saw
photos of myself from the race. I
couldn't believe how unhealthy I'd
beco e. was
and a si e .
decided I was going to make some big
changes for myself and my children.
'I became an ambassador for GOSH
Children's Charity, representing them
if groups or individuals raised money.
I'd go to events to say thank you.
'Then I joined a running club and,
a er six onths noticed y sta ina
had improved and I was running for
longer without walking.
'I started to do runs to raise money
in e ory o ayden. t took e six
months to get to a
5K distance and
about nine months
to do a 10K. I
people heckling me
as I pounded the
streets but now
so if it happens I
can't hear. Two years ago, I did a half
marathon, and last year I ran the
London Marathon for GOSH
- something I'd always wanted to do.
unning gives e ti e to reflect
and has helped with my grief. I have
Cayden's photo on my running vest,
'I HAVE CAYDEN'S
PHOTO ON MY
RUNNING VEST SO I
KNOW HE'S THERE'
If you're grieving, talk to people
- don't bottle it up like I did.
Use support groups to help you
get through it. GOSH was always
there for me on email or by
phone, and that really helped.
Raising money in memory of
the person you've lost gives you
purpose, brings family and
friends together, and keeps that
person's memory alive. It helps to
know you're making a difference
to someone else.
and if I'm struggling I look down and
know he's there, pushing me on. If I
wasn't raising money in his memory,
I'd feel like he isn't with me any more.
'Richard and I also organise
undraising events coffee ornings
and a music event in 2012 that raised
£3,500. With the GOSH Brighter
Future Fund, where other people can
also raise money in Cayden's name,
we have raised £38,000. We hope to
smash the £40,000 mark with our
next usic event in e te ber.
FINDING A PURPOSE
'I also work four days a week, as a
nancia ad inistrator or y dad
who is an electrician, so I don't sleep
that much! I go running at 5.30am
three ti es a week.
er the kids
evening activities, I organise events.
ace or the ids
(gosh.org/raceforthekids) is on
Saturday 7 October in Hyde Park.'
HEATHER WEARS: BLOUSE - DOROTHY PERKINS