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SINGLE MUM CHARITY
DAILY BATTLES WITH
HER SON TYRELL,
NOW FIVE, WHO
HIT AND BITE HER.
THEN JO FROST
CAME TO TOWN...
aving been diagnosed with a
rare form of cancer when she
was 17, Charity Gijsbertha,
now 24, has been left with side
effects including bad headaches, sickness
and exhaustion. She certainly didn't need
the added stress of an unruly child.
'Tyrell started to change when he
turned two,' she says. 'He would often
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kick, bite and hit me when he got angry,
and scream and shout when we were out
in public for no apparent reason.
'Every time I tried to discipline him,
he turned crazy so there was never any
calmness in our house.'
TROUBLE AT NURSERY
Charity's mother, Arlene, compounded
the situation by often undermining her
daughter in front of Tyrell, resulting in a
strained relationship between the two.
'My mother and I were constantly
arguing,' says Charity. 'I believed she
was trying to take control of Tyrell and
he would see this and play up, throwing
things at me for attention and regularly
reaching out to hit me.'
Having undergone chemotherapy
following her cancer diagnosis, Charity
never imagined she would one day be
able to have a child of her own - so overcompensated by spoiling Tyrell. But all
that changed when he started to act up
at nursery school and Charity realised
something had to be done.
'When the teacher told me Tyrell was
behaving so badly at nursery they didn't
want him to return, I knew we needed
professional help,' she says. And it was
then she remembered Jo Frost.
Charity - who lives in Rotterdam, the
Netherlands, and is a big fan of Jo - saw
an appeal for Dutch families to take part
in the Nanny on Tour series. She applied,
little realising that just a few months later,
she'd be starring on the show.
'At first it was very exciting to be a part
of the programme,' says Charity, 'but also
a bit scary, as all our privacy was gone.
The TV crew was filming for six weeks.
'By this time, Tyrell was three years
old and Jo spent two days in our house
watching his behaviour. It was a real
honour to have her undivided attention
as she was so kind and helpful through
the whole process.'
She continues: 'Jo helped us so much
as she focused on the way Tyrell was