AT Home with Lorraine Kelly - April 2011 - (Page 40)
Free yourself
from fear
failure, change or disappointment can lead you to make decisions that hold you back. if you’ve been putting the brakes on your life, now is the time to take control and start living how you want to
sabre-toothed tiger, but it’s not so great if faced with doing a presentation or sitting an exam. Fears tend to close down people’s thinking and create limitations such as “You can’t do that because…” Your dreams are usually expansive, free of fear and positive. This is why overcoming your fears is important to achieving those big ideas.’
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ear is something everyone experiences in their lives. Sometimes it’s a useful emotion that keeps you from harm. For instance, being fearful of heights or dark alleyways can protect you from very real dangers. But fear can also have a negative impact, preventing you from achieving your goals or ambitions and stopping you living life to the full. ‘Fear is very common,’ says Dr David Wilkinson, who set up The Fear Course (www.thefearcourse. com), and helps disaster managers and emergency workers around the world to cope with difficult situations. ‘It developed to stop everyone becoming a predator’s lunch. This is excellent if you are faced with a
Seeing fear for what it is
So why do you feel fear, even in unthreatening situations? ‘The fear control centres of the brain developed about 208 million years ago and haven’t changed much since,’ says Dr Wilkinson. ‘The relatively modern-thinking part of your brain understands about getting married, doing exams, giving talks, doing interviews, but the old
bit keeps shouting: “Run away, you are about to be eaten”, because that’s all it knows. Which is why, at one level, most people know their fears are irrational and yet still feel anxiety.’ When faced with choices or decisions that make you fearful, you normally react in one of three ways, Dr Wilkinson explains: l Flight – when you feel like running away or avoiding doing something; l Freeze – when you feel stuck; l Fight – when you feel aggression, anger or irritation. Fear is a normal reaction, but it is not always a positive one and you need to recognise that it can silently influence many of your decisions and ultimately affect your whole life. ‘Fear becomes a problem when it is misplaced. This is when you fear things that aren’t actually a threat
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Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of AT Home with Lorraine Kelly - April 2011
EDITOR’S LETTER
HELLO FROM LORRAINE
NOTEBOOK NEWS
ONE FOR THE DIARY
LITTLE BLACK BOOK
GOING STRONG
WIN BIG!
LORRAINE UNCUT
TOP HONOURS
FIT FOR A QUEEN
KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON
SEX LIVES
CAREER CORNER
MOTOR SKILLS
DRIVING MISS DAISY
RETIRE HAPPY
CURTAIN CALL
ON TREND TRAPPINGS
IT'S A WRAP
BAGS OF STYLE
STEP AHEAD
WEDDING BELLES
FROCK FRENZY
WHAT YOUR CLOTHES SAY
JEWELLERY BOX BOUNTY
WOMANLY WOES
A BUMP IN THE ROAD
LOVELY BONES
FANCY FOOTWORK
PROTECT YOUR PEEPERS
VITAMIN VITALS
LOOK TO THE STARS
BE WELL
A RACE AGAINST TIME
MANAGE YOUR MAN’S HEALTH
EXPERT OPINION
MEZZE MADE EASY
DIG IN!
METABOLISM EXPLAINED
HEALTHY HYDRATION
READY, STEADY, RUN
THE GYM-FREE WORKOUT
MIRACLE WORKERS
NAKED AMBITION
WHEN LESS IS MORE
HAIR HEROES
FOXY LOCKS FOR OVER 40S
ASK THE ADULTS
TRAVELLING TOTS
KIDS ON THE CATWALK
A HELPING HAND
WHY I BECAME A FOSTER PARENT
FUN HOUSE
PAMPER TIME
LIFE AT THE RSPCA
WHAT'S FOR DINNER?
MINI MENAGERIE
ANIMAL INSURANCE
MUM'S THE WORD
EASY ON THE EYE
WEDDING BLISS
CREATE YOUR OWN
ONE MORE THING
COMING SOON
STOCKISTS
STYLISH LIVING SUPPLEMENT
SPRING HOME STYLE
GOT TO HAVE IT
HEART OF THE HOME
BEDROOM BLISS
LIVING IT UP
BOLD BATHROOM
SMALL CHANGE
DON'T SLIP UP
IMPROVE, DON'T MOVE
LET ME IN
WINDOW DRESSING
AL FRESCO DINING
DECK IT OUT
CLEVER CONSERVATORIES
GLAZE OVER
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS
TRAVEL SUPPLEMENT
HELLO FROM LORRAINE
TRAVEL NEWS AND VIEWS
WILD AND FREE
BRILLIANT BLIGHTY
ONE FINE DAY
SCHOOL HOLIDAYS
ISLAND HOPPING
THE KIDS ARE ALL RIGHT
THE GREAT OUTDOORS
PARK LIFE
BEFORE YOU JET OFF
GLOBE TROTTER
JUST THE JOB SUPPLEMENT
LORRAINE'S WELCOME
YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL
GO GIRL
FIRST-CLASS EMPLOYER
THE SKY'S THE LIMIT
A RIGHT BALANCE
A WOMAN'S WORLD
BUILDING BEAUTIES
GET SWOTTING
BACK TO WORK
COUNT ON BANKING
BRIGHT SPARK
PLAYING HOUSE
PLACE YOUR BETS
SHOP AROUND
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