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aSk nanny jo How can I get my twoyear-old child to sleep right through the night instead of waking up two or three times and crying for me? Marie Howard, 44, London A child of two needs to get used to a bedtime ritual. This will help to encourage healthy sleeping patterns and, when he wakes up, it’s very important not to respond to him with behaviour that will encourage him to wake up again and again. I’d recommend that you use the ‘Stay in Bed Technique’ which you can find in my book, Jo Frost’s Confident Toddler Care (£16.99, Orion). Sleeping through Q My four-year-old twins fight and take their tantrums out on one another, it’s driving me mad. How can I make them stop? Lisa Doyle, 39, Birmingham The main objective here is to stop the fights. These two need to learn how to get on better in each other’s space, share what they have, and enjoy time on their own separately. Encourage that through play and early-learning games where they have to share. A tantrum taken out on the other is a display of naughty behaviour and so the one who is being aggressive has to be reprimanded. Looks like someone is going to end up on the ‘naughty step’. Double trouble Q A A What can I do to stop my six-year-old yelling and screaming when he doesn’t get his own way? Eleanor Gait, 29, Barnet You need to change the way you respond to your child’s screaming by not caving in and giving him what he wants. Ignore the mock tantrums and make it clear that you expect certain behaviour. Then he can meet that desire and you can praise him for achieving it. It’s worth talking through scenarios with him, and setting obvious boundaries so that you can give him the opportunity to respond differently. The more he emotionally matures, the more you will see a clear decline in tantrums. Tantrum control Q Long car journeys are a nightmare for me. Have you any advice on getting a nine-month-old baby to settle in her car seat? Sarah Prebble, 32, Bucks First and foremost, you need to plan at what time of day you’re going to travel, so that you can make sure your child is fed and changed. Take periods to stop, so that you can all have a breather and your child can spend time out of her car seat before you have to settle her back in. If possible, travel when your child is due for her morning or afternoon nap. At least that way she will have slept through at least an hour of the car journey. Toys and music will occupy her for an amount of time, too. Calm car travel Q I have a four-year-old with selective hearing – he ignores what I am saying a lot of the time which is frustrating. There is definitely nothing wrong with his ears as they have been checked by the doctor! How can I get him to listen to me? Rebecca Ireland, 34, Derby Clearly, your four-yearold listens to what favours him. You are seeing defiance, and as his hearing is plainly ‘selective’, it is crucial for you to communicate well with him. That means no shouting or raising your voice. Have eye contact and follow through with a warning if he refuses to do as he is told. Remember, you want a dialogue with your son not a monologue. Most toddlers show healthy signs of oppositional defiancy but outgrow it. Acknowledge when he does what he is told with descriptive praise as this will encourage more of the desired behaviour. He ignores me Q What can I do to stop my seven-year-old son getting into my bed at night? He calls his room the ‘spare’ room and I just can’t get him to sleep in his own bed through the night. Hanna McKnight, 28, Cumbria Was it once the spare room? You need to spend time with him in the evening, getting him He prefers my bed Q A A A A settled so he can go off to sleep smoothly. Then, when he comes into your room in the middle of the night, you have to make every effort to get him 302 | october 2012 PhotograPhs: Terry Benson, Getty Images ‘Most toddlers show healthy signs of defiancy but outgrow it’

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of at home with Jo Frost - October 2012

EDITOR’S LETTER
JO’S HELLO
WHAT’S NEW IN PARENTING?
OCTOBER OUTINGS
SCRUB A DUB DUB
WHERE THE WILD THINGS ARE
NICE WHEELS
FAMOUS MUMS
JO FROST ON THE GO
THE NAUGHTY CORNER
ADULT CLASSES
THE BIG C
YUMMY MUMMY
GET THE LOOK
PUSHY MOTHERS
TOPS ON TREND
MAKE-UP MAGIC
MOTHER WEAR
BABY BUMP BLISS
FIRST-TIME WORRIES
STARTING OUT
ON-THE-MOVE
SIGN UP
MILK TIME
SLEEP EASY
CRY BABY
WHAT’S THAT RASH?
MORE PLEASE
BABY STEPS
JOIN THE GREEN TEAM
COUNTRY COOL
PRE-SCHOOL LEARNING
BUDDING BOOKWORM
AN ITCH TO SCRATCH
‘I’M NOT HUNGRY’
GOING POTTY
BRITAIN’S GOT TALENT
LIVING WITH AUTISM
OPEN WIDE
THE COLD WAR
LET MUMMY KISS IT BETTER
PANIC STATIONS
A CLEAN SWEEP
PROJECT RUNWAY
ORGANISE THIS
TIME FOR BIG SCHOOL
ALL KITTED OUT
WHERE DO BABIES COME FROM?
‘I HATE YOU!’
TWEEN HEALTH
EAT WELL
TRICK OR TREAT
THE GHOST WITH THE MOST
LET’S BAKE
BABY BUDGET
WHAT KIND OF PARENT ARE YOU?
GIVE A CHILD A HOME
FAMILY MEN
GIRL POWER
DAY TRIPPER
GET PACKING
WHY PETS ARE BEST
COMING SOON
STORY CORNER
COUNT TO 10
PEARLS OF WISDOM
QUESTION TIME
KODAK MOMENTS
SURF’S UP
SOUND BITES
STOCKISTS

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